John Legend is getting very real about the highs and lows in his romance with Chrissy Teigen.
In a new appearance on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast, the 43-year-old singer spoke honestly about his evolving relationship with his wife. John and Chrissy got married in 2013.
The GRAMMY-winning superstar revealed that at the start of his relationship with the 36-year-old model, he was not ready to be the man that she needed him to be. He said of the early days of their romance:
“I think I was more selfish then. I wasn’t a great partner at the beginning of our relationship. Even though I was very into her and very excited to be with her. I was still selfish. I was in my mid 20s, still not ready to fully be the committed partner that I am now.”
John said that with time and working on himself, he was able to fully become the man and partner that he is now:
“Once you really figure out that you love someone and you really love so much about them and you really want to make it work with that person, like you have to decide, I’m going to do the things that I need to do to be a good partner in this relationship. And I’ve just grown as a person ’cause of that too.
When you stop being so selfish when you think about not only the joy you get from a situation and the pleasure you get from it, but you also think about your responsibility and your commitment in that situation. I think you just grow, and you mature. I think part of it is it’s just a matter of time. You need time to become that person you want to be.”
He went on to say that his song I Don’t Love You Like I Used To is about the love he and Chrissy share:
“When we first met, we were like, very attracted to each other, our chemistry was great, but that level of attraction is more like infatuation at the beginning of a relationship. And love when it is able to stand the test of time, it has to be deeper and more real than that. We’ve been through enough together where it’s really fortified us and made us stronger. Those tests have made us grow together and realize things about each other that we didn’t know. And going through all of that, to be able to write and sing a song called ‘I Don’t Love You Like I Used To.’ It’s different now but it’s better.”
